Monday, April 23, 2012

Bar Too High?


I read a line in a book I was reading recently (Some Assembly Required by Anne Lamott) that advised the author to “lower her bar of expectations”.  This is one of my problems... my bar is way too high.

 I remember years ago when I was an administrative assistant to the principal in an elementary school (and I say this with all humility….I basically ran the office), and we had a janitor, Vinnie, who drove me nuts.  He would leave his pail that he had mopped the floors with for days in his janitor’s closet.  You would pass by and wonder if some sequestered student had gone to the great beyond.  I would watch him mow (a sit-down of course) right over a piece of paper, which if he had picked it up BEFORE mowing would have been one piece, but then would suddenly become a thousand.  In a conversation one day with his supervisor, I mentioned these annoyances and he said to me “Sylvia, you are getting out of Vinnie all he can give”.  This statement has resonated with me for years and often pulls me up by my bootstraps.  I expect far too much from people.

Am I a perfectionist?  Not really, as I myself am quite flawed.  I do like things nice and tidy.  I like my house to be esthetically pleasing.  A friend tells me that my animals are good for me as they counterbalance my “perfectionist” side.  Possibly true.  Especially today when my dog rolled in something very “fishy” and is nauseating to be around aside from several cleanings.

I pray every day for help to accept others as they are.  I continually hear my daughter saying, when I am ranting about something “Mom, it is none of your concern”, and she is right, but I feel this compelling need to change some parts of the world.  HELP!

My friend Susan often comes for dinner on Sunday night.  She works at a full time job and has a mini farm and works far harder than I do (she is also 10 years younger than I am), so she comes to dinner and we sort of wrap up the week and prepare for the upcoming one.  Now I love to cook so am always happy to try new recipes on her.  This one is a definite keeper.  It was absolutely delicious and not too much work. 

Chicken Breasts Stuffed with Figs, Prosciutto, and Gorgonzola
From Sunday Roasts: A Year's Worth of Mouthwatering Roasts, from Old-Fashioned Pot Roasts to Glorious Turkeys and Legs of Lamb by Betty Rosbottom (Chronicle Books, 2011). Copyright © 2011 by Betty Rosbottom. Photographs copyright © 2011 by Susie Cushner. All rights reserved. Used with permission of the publisher.
Serves 4
Prep Time: 15 minutes
Start-to-Finish Time: 40 minutes
Materials: Short wooden skewers or sturdy toothpicks, soaked in water for 30 minutes
A celestial trio of Italian ingredients -- dried figs, sliced prosciutto, and creamy Gorgonzola -- makes an irresistible filling for boneless chicken breasts. Once stuffed and skewered, the breasts are pan-seared, then quickly roasted until golden brown. A glaze made with honey and balsamic vinegar gives the chicken a polished look and complements the distinctive flavors of the stuffing.
  • 4 large, boneless, skinless chicken breast halves, 7 to 8 oz/200 to 225 g each
  • Kosher salt
  • Freshly ground black pepper
  • 8 thin slices prosciutto (4 oz/120 g)
  • One 5-oz/145-g wedge Gorgonzola, crumbled
  • 1/2 cup/80 g thinly sliced dried figs, preferably Black Mission
  • 1-1/2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1/2 cup/120 ml balsamic vinegar
  • 1/4 cup/60 ml honey
  • 2 tablespoons minced flat-leaf parsley
  • Fleur de sel
1. Using a very sharp knife held parallel to the work surface, make a horizontal slit through a chicken breast, stopping just short of cutting it in half, and open the breast up like a book. Repeat with the remaining breasts. Cover the breasts with plastic wrap/cling film and pound until they're 1/4 inch/6 mm thick, then salt and pepper them.
2. Cover half of each breast with 2 prosciutto slices, and then divide the cheese evenly over the prosciutto. Divide the figs evenly and place over the cheese on the breasts. Close each breast and secure each with 2 or 3 wooden skewers. Salt and pepper the breasts on both sides. (The chicken breasts can be prepared 2 hours ahead; cover and refrigerate.)
3. Arrange a rack at center position and preheat the oven to 400°F/200°C/gas 6.
4. Heat the oil in a large, heavy, oven-proof frying pan set over medium heat. When hot, add the breasts and cook for 1 minute per side. Place the pan in the oven and roast until the chicken is very tender and the juices run clear when pierced with a knife, for 12 to 15 minutes, turning once after 6 minutes.
5. Using oven mitts, remove the frying pan from the oven and transfer the breasts to a carving board. Tent them loosely with foil.
6. Add the balsamic vinegar and honey to the frying pan and, again using mitts since the handle will be quite hot, place the pan over high heat. Cook, stirring often, until the mixture has reduced to 1/2 cup/120 ml, for about 5 minutes.
7. To serve, use a dish/tea towel or mitts to remove the skewers or toothpicks and cut each breast crosswise on the diagonal into slices 1 inch/2.5 cm thick. Arrange the slices on a platter, slightly overlapping. Drizzle with some sauce and garnish with a sprinkle of parsley and fleur de sel.
Sides: Serve this chicken with buttered linguine or orzo and with tender green beans sprinkled with toasted pine nuts.
Leftover Tip: For lunch or a light supper, garnish a mixed greens salad tossed in a balsamic vinaigrette with cold slices of the chicken and enjoy with some crusty peasant bread.


6 comments:

  1. As for having the bar too high.....I don't think that's too bad of a thing. Especially when it comes to society in general, it seems as if we keep LOWERING the bar just so we don't have to expect as much from people. Very, very sad.

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  2. Carolyn Renee said it perfectly! I'm all for a little bar raising and let's get at it quickly before our society sinks any lower in the lack of self-responsibility and thinking "we deserve" to have it all handed to us on a silver platter. Keep your high ideals, Sylvia. If we don't live by them and pass them on to generations below us, we will be sorry beings indeed!

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  3. I don't think there's anything wrong with encouraging people to do more than they think they can. Otherwise, we'd all be lumps, milling around with no spark - no fire. Setting your bar high is rather a double-edged sword, though. You're more likely to be let down and encouraged. It does seem that the 'bar' has been lowered to the point of inertia, though. That fact that a lot of our youth never bothers to challenge themselves is a very worrying thing. You just keep at it.

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  4. I struggle with the same thing. Esp with stuff related to attachment and breastfeeding, etc. I know the evidence- I know what has been proven best for babes- but a lot of my friends choose other paths in this area. I have had to learn to keep my mouth firmly shut! The only thing that has helped me is prayer- begging God to change my heart and help me to love people as He loves them. Which isn't setting the bar lower really- but it is granting total love and acceptance for wherever they are at this moment. I always have to tell myself "people are more important than what they do, people are more important than my beliefs, people are more important than me being right (about ____)" It's very hard- but when I've had small glimmers of success along this road, it has ultimately been so freeing to let God love and change them- and for me to just love them.

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  5. My problem is that I think I intimidate people with my high standards and this disturbs me as I don't want to come across this way. I believe that we do have to set a higher standard but I think at this point the easiest way is to keep one's own space that way and hope others will follow.....and pray as Christina said.

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  6. One of the reasons we're homeschooling is because I felt like the teachers had incredibly low standards for the kids. But I think, in general, the most important thing is to set the bar high for yourself and your kids, and let other people work out their own issues. I mean, I don't really have time to try to inspire anyone besides my own little circle here!

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